Trauma

Seek the wisdom

that will untie

your knot.

 

Seek the path

that demands your whole being.

Rumi

It not likely there's anyone whose had a trauma-free life.

The content and what we experience from them

is an individual matter.

Some traumas are particularly grave.

They alter us.

They drive our behavior.

They are at the root of our fears.

Some duck for whatever cover they can find,

doing whatever's necessary to avoid more,

and to avoid looking at, or thinking about it.

 

Its not a life.

Its a limp.

Trauma can make our lights go out.

It makes some shy away from the world, or get into dysfunctional relationships, or act out, or self medicate, or do other self abusive things.

There may be anger or fear ultimately causing us to disconnected from ourselves.

Sometimes disconnecting is the only way to survived the unspeakable.

Distress impacts the physiology.  It eats away at our life force and our physical systems begin to breakdown and go haywire.

Both broken down physiology and pain are stressful.  And if stress weren't enough, the physical challenges also dampen our cognition, impact our mood, dim our clarity and awareness and our ability to use sound judgement.

These can cycle back and around on each other and make a mess of our life.

 

At some point, there comes a time when we feel more ready to move forward.  We want to let go of what’s traumatized us but we don't know how.

We may find a therapist.  One where we feel safe.  Safety is a key part of the solution.  But it may take more than feeling safe and talking about what's stuck.   

 

The Chrysalis may provide what you've been hoping for.  It doesn't change the drama, but it changes your relationship to it.  When people feel open and allow in the feeling of quiet it often enables, it can ease the traumas so their sting loses its grip.

Change

While some people are at their wits end, desperately wanting life to be different and better, they may also fear "change" and the potential disruptions of what's familiar in their life.  (Sometimes people fear toppling the apple cart.)  

 

For some, being open to change is more a matter of reconciling persona as separate from who they are.  Sometimes it takes a bit of inner wrestling to let go and reach for the right to be one's innate self.

  • Occasionally people feel shocked and  disturbed when they feel  better.  They may feel a sense of threat and tighten up, pushing the gains away to resume the familiar anxiety or fear.  This is referred to as a rebound.  

  • Sometimes people are so incredulous about the "changes" they feel, they look to assign the Chrysalis feedback  attributes to something else, anything else, even tho that something else had already been in their life and hadn't yet opened that door.

  • Sometimes a person's awareness is too diminished to recognize the effects from the Chrysalis.  Most often, awareness increases - in the meantime others in their life may notice what they can't.  They may notice aspects of:  being more easy going, less stressed, more expressive, more relaxed physically, standing taller, having more resolve, speaking with a stronger voice, more engaging, noticing they're more able to absorb new material, to sequence, track conversations, remember in ways that used elude them, trying new things,  no longer procrastinating, etc. 

The benefits of the Chrysalis can be rather shocking.  They don't make a lot of sense on the surface.  Yet.  They do make sense.  The balances within our physiology are dependent on a great many things going well including the oxygen available to the mitochondria and the nutrients we consume.  The oxygen level and the nutrient intake may be perfect, yet not bio-available where they are needed.  It may seem confusing  when what seem like disconnected parts of us shift; it helps to remember, all of our parts and systems are connected and are interdependent. 

 

When what's "stuck" frees up,

a cascade of possibilities can evolve,

not least of which is feeling lighter.  

 

We can fuel those possibilities

by making the best possible choices,

such as how we eat, what we do and what we expose ourselves to.

 Dr. Len OchsPrivate Practice  - 707.396.3598

While this website contains information not generally known, all of it has been acquired over my lifetime.  I am required to state however, none of this information is for treatment or diagnosis of any medical or psychiatric purpose.  It is provided for entertainment only.

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